Kindfulness: Time to get your Kind on!
So I suspect you’ve heard of kindness and you’ve probably also come across Mindfulness too – well combine the two et voila you have Kindfulness! Kindfulness is all about caring for people and focussing our attention on being kind towards ourselves and others – which has been proven to boost wellbeing and reduce stress!
Scientists have shown that our brains are hard-wired to see the negative and they always seem to be chattering away in regretting, worrying or dwelling mode. We are often on ‘auto-pilot’ on the commute to work, in meetings and even hanging out with loved ones. As our minds wander off to the future or the past we are not fully present – mulling over what we did earlier that day, that week or 3 years ago – Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda! All-in-all we are pretty hard on ourselves, leaving us feeling stressed-out and impacting our resilience.
When we are stuck in our projects, stressing about the future or dwelling on the past, we feel we just don’t think we have time to be kind towards ourselves or others in our ever-so-busy lives. But the good news is that evolutionary psychologists have shown that it is our basic nature to be kind! By using a combination of compassion and Mindfulness we can re-wire our brains to remind ourselves to be kind and crucially stop and take the time to do this.
Compassion must start at home. Remember that old adage you can’t pour from an empty cup? It is vital that we look after ourselves first so we have the energy reserves to give to others. The problem is that we often think that it’s self-indulgent or selfish to do this however science has demonstrated that being self-compassionate releases natural feel-good chemicals in our brains and bodies that help us to soothe our stress system and improve our wellbeing!
And once we have taken care of ourselves we can then do good deeds for others! Random Acts of Kindness have been shown to improve wellbeing and health and also activate the area of brain that produces positive emotions – boosting resilience and has even been shown to improve life expectancy!
So how exactly can we boost our Kindfulness – below are a few top tips to get you started:
- Send yourself some Kind Vibes! Literally boost your wellbeing by putting your hand on your heart and send yourself some love and well wishes i.e. to be Happy and Healthy, Peaceful, to feel Loved and Secure
- Ring-fence some ‘Me-time’! Activate those stress-busting chemicals and do something nourishing that will replenish your resilience
- Read a good book
- Do some doodling or drawing
- Go for a nice walk on your lunch break
- Call a good mate
- Listen or play music
- Have a Duvet Day
- Turn off notifications on your phone
- Go to a yoga or pilates class
- Do some Micro – Mindfulness
- Do a good deed for someone else – Pay it Forward!
- Pop in and see an elderly neighbour
- Smile at someone on your way to work
- Let someone go in front of you in the bus queue
- Support a charity by doing a 5K run
- Do some volunteering in your local area
- Give blood
- Donate old clothes to a charity shop
- Make someone a cuppa
- Bring some nice treats to work
- Sending other people good wishes! You can use your mindfulness to send others Kind Vibes such as wishing them Health and Happiness! You can send loving-kindness to your friend, family member, server at Tesco’s or your pet dog – its entirely up to you!
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